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This week I felt inspired to share a raw period that lead me to a place of peace-dealing with the drama, dysfunction and strife.

The reality is we all live in a broken world, where nothing is ideal anymore. Learning to heal from brokenness, disappointment, trauma and wounds-which naturally lead to forgiveness. The biggest revelation I read was-forgiveness is for yourself, not for the other person-TD Jakes. I come across so many testimonies that there is life after unhappiness, leading productive lives after abuse, trauma and hurt.

The common theme is ‘letting it go’ in body, mind, spirit and soul, which is a process in itself and it wasn’t an overnight result. I regularly pray to God to take away the historic pain. I am hopeful that one day I can actually say I forgive you and mean it. When people are unsavoury, it is a reflection of themselves- they can’t be leading great lives if they are behaving in a dysfunctional manner.

I recently come across a quote on Instagram- It was something along the lines of- I thank all the negative people in my life, because it reminds me how I don’t want to be.’ Instead of taking it personally and potentially other people’s issues, we need to learn to have another perspective. In my case, as a practising Christian I will actively pray for them and take no offense in the first place (where possible). I need to ensure I keep my peace and cannot allow day to day petty manners to steal it. There are always people who thrive on drama, have an attitude or a chip on their shoulders, misery loves company.

As I was writing this I came across the story of- Jewel- her story really resonated with me, she realised that her upbringing she is statistically more likely to repeat the dysfunctional pattern of behaviour that she was exposed to. It was a case of nature v nurture, as she didn’t have the greatest start she knew she had to relearn a new mindset, to stop the vicious cycle. She also said that bitterness, anger and hurt doesn’t have to overshadow the rest of your life. Your wounds, hurt and pain can turn into compassion, strength and it can be the overcoming of you.

In a biblical sense, I read that God doesn’t waste anything, whatever you go through, and you grow through. So nothing is ever wasted- I was really taken back by this statement alone because I always felt the dysfunction held me back in body, mind, soul and spirit because all the negativity I was felt had deep roots. I then came across the story of Gavin De Becker- he grew up in an extremely abusive and dysfunctional environment. He had every reason to not succeed statistically and from the time it would appear that he was destined for a life of dysfunction, strife and pain. He now has his own security company, where he advises on public safety and how to predict abusive people’s behaviour from getting out of control. The very thing he was exposed that logically would have disadvantaged him turned into his triumphant.This was a great example of turning your pain into your purpose. 

I was so inspired and moved on how other people overcome their hardships it actually was the start to heal my own pain. I hope that this post can help you to see your pain in a different way that is productive and doing yourself justice. Everybody deserves to have eternal freedom and lead a life that is free from pain and the generational dysfunction of brokenness. I do think it’s a journey and not a process healing from years of pain and learn a new way of thinking and being takes time, allow yourself to adjust and stay positively consistent with your journey I promise you that in a year’s time, your emotions will start to even out to see out the pain. It has done with me, I am so at peace with myself and all that is around me I learnt to not engage with negativity but learn to co-exist with it. In my humble opinion, this is the start of a new life style change and moreover it’s breaking a vicious cycle for the next generation.

I wanted to close with the following quote by Jewel- our pain, losses and struggles doesn’t have to make us damage and bitter people, it can make us more compassionate, empathetic and extraordinary people. 




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