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#MorningInspiration #Survivors #SurvivorsMovement - A #Journey into the root causes of #pain

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Thank you for stopping by.

This week is the 3rd part blog series to #SurvivorsMovement

The movement is all about surviving to thriving, transitioning onto greater things. Jimmy Evans said that it’s never the pain that causes us pain, it’s our response to pain. As I dwelled on this I realised the chain reaction in my own response to pain. I learnt the hard and harsh reality that no one can rescue us or love us like we can ourselves, looking for someone to fill a void doesn't usually end well because you are unlikely to make an informed choice when you feel vulnerable yourself and even the best examples of human nature tends to fall short. 

Moreover, we are never truly complete without our Heavenly Father, it’s only God who can get into the source of pain. I have had therapy for ten years off and on, it never got to the source of my pain just touching the symptoms, hence the cycle. My mindset also started to renew by applying the key principles of Christ such as forgiveness, learning that wounded people, wound people and nothing truly resolves if we don’t come from a place of peace and Jesus is the prince of peace. Jesus said he never leaves or forsakes us, his love is steadfast and it covers a multitude of sins. My emotional bondage from the fall out of my childhood was slowly killing my spirit for life, because that never truly healed until I found Christ.

When we have experienced abandonment or rejection in the past we often go back to those familiar feelings. Breaking that cycle can be a relentless task but not impossible through Christ. When we are in a good place from within, we tend to make much better choices. We are also more likely to live each day to its fullest, appreciating the wonders of life regardless of what the day might bring. Below is just one of my favourite moments with my daughter, we went on a spontaneous boat ride, there is something very peaceful and refreshing about water. 



One of my survivor’s circle wrote ‘I like the idea of valuing my future instead of identifying with the past. That's very poignant to me at the moment’. In response to the article I wrote via @TheFatherEffect it’s very fitting to all survivors, our past can burden us or propel us, don’t let your struggles become your identity.

I would never have thought that abandonment from my own father can turn into such a beautiful message. I want to publicly thank the Lord for his grace for turning a mess into a message and my pain into my purpose.

** A special shout out to all  @TheFatherEffect @JohnFinch– thank you so much for having me, it was blast. To check out more inspiring father’s stories: http://www.encouragingdads.com/stories2/


Best wishes


KIMI X 


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