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Morning Inspiration: Part 4 - A New Chapter- New Year, New Beginning & New You




This is the final blog post on the New Year, New Beginnings & New You series.
               
I recently had one of those ‘aha moments’ and felt compelled to share as this quote caught my attention:

‘If we do not heal from the wounds of the past, we will carry on bleeding into our future.’ Iyanla Vanzant

We live in a broken world and nobody is immune to brokenness and the darkness that lies within that. Unprocessed pain, wounds and hurt over time turns into anger, bitterness and resentment. These can slowly steal your peace, joy and your ability to truly live in the moment because a part of you is still consumed with the past. I do think this is human nature to do so (I wrestled with it long enough), the injustice feeds the ache and this can only be changed through God.

Incidentally, I watched a drama that centred on a single mother and her 3 children who struggled through great hardships, as the father left them with no money. All three are now grown up and have families of their own. The struggles seem to be behind them now, as the family established a small business and live a relatively comfortable life. The single mother, who is now retired, should be happily retired and reaping the blessings of her hard work. This couldn’t be further from the truth; she is difficult to live with, unpleasant in her demeanour and often the family are at the mercy of her moods. This made me think a lot about the complex mind of human nature as this portrayal is not too different from real life. I suspect her behaviour stems from the pain of her past. In short she is carrying a vast amount of unforgiveness and overtime this has manifested into bitterness and anger. 

The pain not only stole a season but very much casted a shadow for the rest of her life. She was only at peace when she had finally forgave her husband. Reconciliation is not always possible, but in this case it was, and the peace filtered through to all areas of her life. This observation really spoke to me because unforgiveness comes in peaks and troughs for me too at times. I noted the children put up with her out because of their culture and their respect for her as an elder; they did not do so out of choice. After all she did bring them up single-handedly. But it doesn’t make it right for the next generation to be living out with the effects of past pain either. I would hate for me to subject my daughter to this and for her to feel obligated to put up with this because I held onto bitterness.

Jimmy Evans says that we all inherit hurt and pain through the behaviours of our caregivers and environment. Breaking the hurt legacy will require healing from the source of life, our Creator. This is by no means a quick fix because to be free depends on you as much as it depends on the Word of God. I have read from many sources that a lot of our most common physical complaints in our bodies stem from the lack of emotional wellness. The irony is that most of us overlook our mental health, despite the powerful effects it can have, such as being reckless in our choices, neglecting our bodies and overeating. Jimmy Evans says that the problem is never the problem; it is pain. Based on all that I am learning and observing, I have to agree with this.





If we don’t let it go of past pain, hurt, wounds and offenses, we run the risk of letting the past define the rest of our lives and also that of future generations.  

‘Freedom is the prize awarded to those who leave the past behind’ Sheri Rose Shepherd.

 "Work at living in peace with everyone . . .  Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many." Inspired by Hebrews 12:14-15. 

With peace and love

KIMI

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