Hello
Thank you so much for stopping by
at KIMI’s #blog- appreciated.
This week I have been hooked on the
#TDJakesShow. It’s truly inspiration and a great movement towards living
healthier, happier and more sustainable lives. I learnt so much and I applied some of the talking points to my own life. When I came across forgiveness,
generational bondage, feelings of despair I knew this programme will have a
positive influence, for me to regain control, a sense of peace and wellness
in healing the wounds of my pain.
Forgive the Unforgivable:
3 men was wrongly imprisoned and collectively served 105 years. They all have an incredible amount of peace within them and moving forward in with their lives in a truly humbling manner. These guys quite literally gives forgiveness a whole new meaning. Below are some key points that resonated with me:
‘Forgiveness is for
yourself and not for others- it releases you from the situation and stops
you being chain to it’.
‘Don’t allow your history
to dictate your destiny’
‘Find a way to be released
from your past’
‘I lived so many years of
hurt. I don’t want this weight to attribute to my future’
This story touched me on
so many levels and it inspired me to think about forgiveness in a whole light.
It’s quite clear visibility and evidently that forgiveness restores the soul
and gives life back to the spirit. It has helped me to dilute some of the ill
feelings I had towards my own parent’s- if I continue to hold them hostage to
the dire start I had- I will be more than likely to repeat / react the very
behaviours that caused me so many years of pain because that it’s all I have
known. It’s part of my makeup and therefore unless I make a conscious effort to
change and break the generational bondage this will probably carry on
inevitability to future generation.
How Do I Move Forward With
My Life?
This topic really spoke to me I often feel plighted by the dysfunctional
circumstances that my life did became my circumstances. It was so negative that
I felt so suppressed by it and it suffocated my existence that I didn’t and
couldn’t see a life beyond the reality. If we don’t learn to let go and heal
from the past, we will very likely to be repeating a similar pattern of
behaviour from childhood into adulthood: I can see subconsciously I have turned
into my mother and found a partner just like my own father. Had I not broken
away from the situation my daughter would have been enduring a very similar
childhood- the one that I didn’t think too much of. Breaking the cycle in many
respects are still ongoing- for me going to church and learning the word of God
has been refreshing and an uplifting experience. For the very first time I can
see my daughter to have a very contrasting childhood to my own. I have
reprogrammed my mind to think and be in a more productive manner. In my case
and in the words of TD Jakes- ‘I have turned my misery into my ministry’ I have
a line of mantra bags- inspiration on the GO and I also drafted a novel which
is partly inspired by my own story. If you are interested here is the sneak
preview in an earlier post- enjoy!
The working title is This is a story is about a young
parent journey through life’s challenges and how positive thoughts helped to
make better choices shaped the future……………………………determined not to be victim but
be a survivor.
I feel so blessed that my
daughter and I were able to make the break of a lifetime- our life is clean
where our environment is protected from the elements. If I learnt one thing is
that if your environment is toxic, you will became your environment. So I made
the conscious decision to ensure that we break a habit of a lifetime. I chose
forgiveness, I chose to heal and restore my soul through the Lord Jesus Christ
because I chose life. Once I cleanse my mind of the negativity and toxicity I
was able to rebuild the foundation my life. I started to building with love,
love yourself, love your family and friends, love what you do and love your
life. Love starts with self, when you love yourself you make better decisions
and have a higher expectation where settling doesn’t become an option.
The outcome is incredible
and a real testimony to God’s healing power. My daughter has already
outperformed in school and her standard has broken the glass ceiling than I was
accustomed to. She is thriving every day in her personal and academic
development, her ability to question and articulate the world around her is
very high indeed. Half of the things she says I don’t expect a child of her age
to be able to do so- I share a very quick snippet of a possible barrister in the
making:
We sat in the quiet
carriage, my daughter and I barely had a dialogue because we were both
exhausted as we went after school and it was late. A women appeared in front of
us and said- this is the quiet carriage- if you want to speak can you go in the
next carriage. My daughter said to me it says ‘quiet and not silent’. I use this to put the petty person in her
place. I told my mentor and he said that was a typical thing his son (who is a
barrister) would have said at this age- I am so proud of my daughter she quite
literally is destined for much bigger things that our history…If that the
standards she’s working at.
I just want to conclude
that you will have the naysayers that dull your shine and spirit- I had someone questioned the quality of the above argument. I am not precious about this but it was flawed because not
many 8 year old, who been at school, walked around for most parts of
the day- would be able to have the capacity to articulate such an accurate
response. It was put in a factual and assertive way which is a skill in itself
and it was done by a child- pretty awesome even if I say so myself.
I wish you
a truly free life in body, mind, spirit and soul. Never be consumed by your
start, your environment, other people’s negativity…… being free allows you to
truly live in the moment and can change the outcome of your destiny from
mediocre to exceptional. Live in the
moment and be in the moment, it will change the course of your life.
Best wishes
KIMI X
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